Why Me, Lord?

September 16, 2016
by Rosemary Hagedorn

Have you ever felt sorry for yourself and asked that age-old question "Why me, Lord?"

I hope that some of my readers have been there, so that I don't feel all alone. As some of you are probably aware, my life has been turned upside down. Sometimes, things are pretty good, but once in a while, I go into that mode of feeling sorry for myself. I was reminded of something that I heard not too long ago: a pity party.

I looked up the words in Google, and this is what it said:

    A Pity Party – A way of experiencing grief, in which you spend your time feeling sorry for yourself and whining endlessly about how crappy your life is. Pity parties can be just for one or for many people, such as your close friends who will try to comfort you or just be there for you while you keep asking yourself what you did in order to deserve whatever it is that made you so sad in the first place.

I wear many hats. I look after our financial affairs and arrange for appointments for my husband as well as myself. I make out the shopping list. I pay all the bills and make sure that we don't run out of propane gas. I cook, clean, and do laundry. I run errands for my mother, take my aunt shopping every week, and help out at the church. I am constantly closing doors and drawers and turning off lights that my husband has left open or on. Some days, I feel totally overwhelmed, and I start feeling sorry for myself and asking, "God, why me?"

It was during this time of helplessness that the Holy Spirit broke through the silence and told me that God allows certain sufferings in our lives in order that we learn and grow from them. I know that I need to learn patience, and lots of it!

Psalm 23:4 – Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. (NIV 2011)

Although sometimes in our hurting and pain, it may feel that we are all alone, in our trials, God's rod and staff will comfort and lead us.

Where might God desire to comfort and lead you today?

Prayer: Lord God, be with us in our trials. Help us to look beyond our immediate circumstances, and remind us that You are always with us and that this present situation will look differently tomorrow. Amen.

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Rosemary Hagedorn <rosyhagedorn@gmail.com>

Penetanguishene, Ontario, Canada


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  • PresbyCan Feedback says:

    May God grant you his peace.


    Good one to remember, thanks for this one.


    Blessings on you Rosemary. Keep the faith, and keep going.


    Thank you. My daily prayer; Please give me patience and inner strength.


    Thanks Rosemary for this reminder to keep being thankful for our God given ability to be useful. Blessings.


    AND, don’t we all have the same emotions. Thanks for speaking to them, Rosemary.
    (Tx)


    You are not alone I can assure you!! Thanks for sharing your thoughtful message. I needed the reminder. It is amazing just how busy we are in retirement!! Blessings.


    Hi Rosie
    A good reminder for us all about where our ‘Help’ comes from.
    I never think of you as a ‘pity party’ person – you are far too busy to really have time for much of that.


    Sounds so familiar, Rosy.
    He takes us through the situations when we ask “why?” no matter how difficult or painful. Well one day we shall know, even as we are known. Thank the Lord for His never-ending love and patience


    Loved this message, Rosy. Feel for you too. Your family members are so blessed to have your love. Pity party’s are allowed. We have to know when to leave though. Hugs and blessings to you.
    Keep on writing your Wonder messages of devotion,
    (On.)


    Dear Rosy:
    I hope this will help you as it does for me. Whenever I’m feeling down and blue or in pain, I remind myself that whatever I am going through, it is nothing compared to what Jesus went through. I find that this puts things in perspective for me.


    Grace. I always ask for grace. And He gives it. I have been overwhelmed, yes. Sometimes God tells me to do something about the stuff that is gobbling up my life. Like why I let my family get away with bad habits. Sometimes I am the enabler. Lots of things come out of these times and taking stock, then taking some action results in praise and thanksgiving. I was once very much a poor me kind of person. Thankfully He filled my neediness and brought a richness to my life I had never known was possible. No more pity parties. Just thankfulness. May the Lord fill you up today.


    Dear Rosemary,
    Having gone through five years of being a caregiver to my late husband, I understand how overwhelming and exhausting it is. Pity parties are appropriate periodically and God understands that sometimes we have to let go and “feel the feelings”. It’s a cleansing so we can pick up and start over again. However during the steady times is when we need to feel God’s presence with us, to support us and be a comfort so that the times of overwhelming are less frequent.
    Blessings.


    Good Morning Rosy. I just read my devotional and felt some connection with you. I too had to look after everything for both my husband and myself for several years. Although he was of sound mind he had medical problems that left him unable to do many things that he always took care of.
    I was very blessed because it was at a time when I got more support from CCAC than is provided now and was able to get out regularly for a few hours. If I hadn’t had my relationship with our Lord I don’t know what I would have done. It seems that whenever I would get to a place where I was feeling sorry for myself He always sent someone to lift me up.
    I thank you for this devotional this morning and please know that I am praying for you and your husband. Just remember to take some time for yourself whenever you can so that you do not wear yourself out.


    I can understand completely. Although my husband has been dead for mny years I dealt with his ill health for years prior. I was lucky to have children who kept me going because “who else would look after them”. I really can’t say that I prayed at certain time but it was always on the tip of my tongue. My major time all my life was bedtime when I looked up and said, “all right God it is your turn”. I then went to sleep and if a child cried I immediately woke up checked them and cuddled them and went back to bed and to sleep. The last 10 years of my husband’s life I depended on God so much.
    I do hope that you wake up to sunshine, if not outside, may it be in your soul.


    Thanks Rosemary. I needed this today as that is how I was feeling. I have been getting information re medical appointments.
    Some days you feel so overwhelmed! Think part of that is we women tend to be the caregivers and doers etc. and maybe allow ourselves to be caught up!! However God is good and will always be there. We just have to learn to take a break and rest and recharge our batteries I guess, but sometimes hard to do, or we just don’t do it!!! Always enjoy reading your devotionals.
    (Nova Scotia)


    Hello Rosemary — I just finished reading your devotional: “Why me Lord?” It was just what I needed — I have been feeling like this too. My husband passed away recently. Despite lots of good memories — I seem to be feeling worse each day and I guess I thought each day would get a little easier ) .
    Grief is so strange and it hits you at times and causes you to maybe over-react and say things that you wouldn’t normally say. I am always praying for God’s help. Thank you for sharing your feelings. I know you are going through a rough time and I will pray that God continues to give you the strength to get through each day! Peace.


    A very difficult time for you. A young lady went through a very bad time health wise and almost died having spent much time in the hospital. Her many young friends asked “why would this happen to you?” Her answer was “why not me”. Who should it happen to? Sure she had days she became discouraged and felt sorry for herself but she was right to say none of us are immune to difficulties but we have to move forward. Easy to say difficult to do. She told me that just knowing how many people were praying for her was a great comfort and helped her become well again. Just know that I am praying for you and understand yours is a much different situation. May God help you with your many challenges.


    Hi Rosy,
    Our thoughts and prayers are with you. It is my prayer that you will get the strength to do all the things you need to do.
    Blessings.


    Dear Rosemary,
    I pray for you and your husband, that God will sustain and comfort you and give you and him joy even in the midst of what seems to be his declining- age syndrome. May God give your husband peace and rest in what he must be frustrated in — because it seems he cannot help what is happening to himself.


    Dear Rosemary,
    You are not alone. I too have to stop and count the blessings.
    This spring and summer have been overwhelming.
    All one can do at times like this is to throw oneself into the arms of God.
    Even prayer comes out like groans.
    May God bless you and yours.


    Dear Rosemary,
    The Lord has blessed me through your devotional message. Today is when I needed it!
    Our heavenly Father knows what we need before we ask Him (Isa 65:24)
    Thank you and may God bless you richly as you continue to serve Him.


    Hi Rosy,
    Yes, Rosy it is easy to fall into the “Pity Mode”. I believe as we age we all go through some of this but the most important fact for us all to remember is that we have our faith, and the comfort knowing God’s Spirit walks with us through it all. But we are human and it is easy to fall into the latter mode especially when our responsibilities become pretty heavy. But remember take “One Day At A Time”. When I was volunteering in pastoral and pallative care in a large institution in Toronto, our senior people who came to the Hymn Sing, always like to sing “One Day At A Time Sweet Jesus”. They called it their theme song. When I pray I thank God for all the blessings He has given us.
    God Bless.
    (ON)


    Sounds like you have a lot on your plate, so if sometimes you are overwhelmed I think that’s allowed.

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