Forgiveness Is Necessary

October 23, 2017
by Rosemary Hagedorn

When we immigrated to Canada, we had to rent flats in various houses until my father and mother had saved enough money for a down payment on a house of their own. I remember my mother telling me that the very first flat that they rented cost them $25 a month — a bit high in the 1950s. Due to a language barrier, my parents had no other choice but to pay the monthly rent to the landlord, an immigrant as well.

Ephesians 4:32 – Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. (NIV)

When I was twelve years old, we rented another flat. Back then, it would have been considered a slum area, but according to my father, it was a lot cheaper, and therefore, he rented it. When I first met our new landlord, I had an uneasy feeling about him. I remember coming home from school and starting my way up the stairs to our new home, when I heard the footsteps of the landlord behind me. He followed me into the kitchen and sat down. He asked me to come over to him. Innocently, I obliged. He grabbed my hands and drew me towards him. It was at that awkward moment when I heard my younger brother coming home from school and running up the stairs, which interrupted what might have been. God's timing was perfect. Soon after that happened, we moved.

There were two other occasions that could have turned out to be sexual abuse, but God's protective timing was always perfect. Unbeknownst to a thirteen-year-old, I did not realize that these unfortunate events would affect me and my daughter later on in life.

When my firstborn was twelve years old, I began to notice that I had trouble hugging her. She was the same age that I was when I had had my first encounter with our landlord. I felt in my heart that there was a problem. I shared my dilemma with a good friend who had led me to Jesus a few years before. She told me that I should talk to Jesus and tell Him what I was going through. Tearfully, I did, and He challenged me to forgive the men who had tried to abuse me. Then one day, I realized that I was once again able to hug my daughter.

Matthew 6:15 – But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. (NIV 2011)

It is in the forgiveness that we give, that we are healed.

Prayer: Lord Jesus, You know our hearts. You know what is going to happen within our lives. You know, because You are with us when we encounter danger. Help us to forgive those who have wronged us, just as You forgive us for wronging You. Bring healing into the deep hurts of our lives. Amen.

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Rosemary Hagedorn <rosyhagedorn@gmail.com>

Penetanguishene, Ontario, Canada


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1 Comment

  • PresbyCan Feedback says:

    Thanks for sharing!


    A great word Rosemary.


    Continued healings from Jesus!


    Thank you so much for sharing your devotional!


    Thanks for sharing your story today, Rosemary. God is good!


    What a powerful message and reminder for me at this particular time.


    God bless you for sharing this Rosy.
    So many females have suffered such abuses. Thankfully, God was watching over you.


    Powerful stuff, Rosy. God is at work!
    Thank you for sharing your story.
    Bless you.


    Thank you so much for a different devotion!
    We all can learn from this!
    May God bless you truly for sharing.
    Have a wonderful week.


    Oh Rosemary, these occurrences are more common than previously thought. Praising God that you’ve overcome the memories through Christ’s healing touch experienced in your prayer time enabling you to forgive the people who did this. Yes, our Lord protects us even when we’re unaware that He has. Blessings.


    Hello Again Dear Rosemary
    I too, unfortunately, went through this with my brother-in-law. I had to protect myself for the next two years as my mom felt she couldn’t tell my dad as he would do harm to him. This has haunted me all my life.
    Thank the Lord for His help in protecting me.
    Bless you dear friend and my sister in Christ Jesus.


    What a wonderful example of the healing power of forgiveness.
    I had a close friend who became angry and abusive. It was hard to forgive I had to work on it.
    Then I started seeing her, maybe in a crowd at a mall, or walking along a street. She did not live near me. This kept happening until one day she called, asking to me to be friends again.
    I could not achieve that but the Lord could. I just had to do my part.
    Thanks for sharing and reminding me of my experience.


    Greetings and Blessings from me to you, in Jesus’ name. Amen.
    Your life and mine are much the same. My parents are of British descent, and came to Canada with their parents after the Great War, as emigrants also.
    We did not live in flats, but did rent old houses in downtown Toronto. My abuse was by another male. Yes, I must forgive him, and try to forget him, or that event will linger with me forever!
    Yes, God can handle everything we ask Him to help with! He is truly our help in time of trouble! Thank you Lord Amen.


    Hello Rosemary. I always enjoy your devotionals, but this one took me back too. When I was 13 my Grandpa was coming for a visit and Mother told me that I should never be alone with him. I don’t remember if I asked for why but the time came when I found out. I was at my aunt’s and she went out to get some things from the garden for supper. He saw his opportunity and made his move. Then I knew what she meant. I ran outside and never again wanted to even see him. I never told anyone, not even my precious Mother.
    Thank for having the courage to share, and the Lord knows who is out reading something that they need. As I talk with the Lord before I get out of bed I always ask Him to make me a blessing to someone this day, and I don’t have to know. All I need to know is that I have lived a day that is pleasing to Him.
    Since we’re not perfect it can be difficult, but I want to give my best each day. Thanks again.


    Dear Rosemary,
    I thank God for saving you and me too from such a disaster. We pray for those who were overcome when no one intervened.
    For God’s sake. Amen.

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