If You Spot It, You Got It!

September 10, 2018
by Rose DeShaw

James 1:21b-22a,26 – Humbly accept the word God has planted in your hearts, for it has the power to save your souls. But don't just listen to God's word. You must do what it says. If you claim to be religious but don't control your tongue, you are fooling yourself, and your religion is worthless. (NLT)

I have a good friend, someone whom I can call in the middle of the night, but someone whom I was giving up on, due to her habit of interrupting me when I was trying to talk and talking far too much about herself. I thought about following the modern practice of "unfriending" as I wrote to a newspaper advice columnist about ending this relationship. Surely, if I pointed out how annoying she was and how her constant hogging the conversation was unacceptable, the columnist would agree that I needed to dump her and find myself a better-quality friend.

But I didn't send the letter, because writing it down not only reminded me of what a lovely person she really is — well-informed, keeping her promises, hard-working, and loyal — but also that the saying, If you spot it, you got it! meant that my difficulties with her were really because I myself usually behaved in the same annoying way. God had a personal message for me.

I was raised in a critical, judgmental family, slow to forgive. I needed God's help to change as I began to pray blessings for her: all the good things that I'd like in my own life. I also asked God to take away my destructive behaviour, being specific about my self-centredness. When by God's grace, my friendship with her changed and immeasurably improved, I began to use this impetus towards others. They say, Expectations are premature resentments. Now, when such feelings start up, I automatically begin the prayers that will set me free. The result has been several surprising new friendships.

Try this approach and see what it does for your own relationships!

1 John 1:8-9 – If we claim we have no sin, we are only fooling ourselves and not living in the truth. But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness. (NLT)

Prayer: Dear gracious heavenly Father, we are so grateful that You constantly open our eyes to our own behaviour and offer forgiveness through Your Son, Jesus. We pray for willingness to change as You show us the failures in our own lives that require attention. Thank You for the opportunities, moment by moment, to renew a right spirit within us as we accept Your forgiveness and feel the flood of Your Spirit into the happy lives that You have for us to live today. In Christ's name, we pray. Amen.

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Rose DeShaw <rise370@gmail.com>
Kingston, Ontario, Canada

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1 Comment

  • PresbyCan Feedback says:

    You are indeed a good friend!


    Thanks for the good word, Rose.


    Thank you for the devotional and the good advice.


    Very good reminder, Rose, thank you and God bless!


    Thank you, Rose, for sharing this timely devotional reminder with us. Blessings.


    Thanks for your wise words. I need to read this on a regular basis.
    (B.C.)


    Dear rose, what a great reminder for all of us! “Expectations are premature resentments ” is very clear!! Thank you!


    Thanks for a good and practical word today Rose. And l’m glad you kept your friend!
    Blessings.


    Dear Rose – I have not noticed a devotional written by you before, but this one certainly caught my attention. Thank you for pointing out that when we begin to judge others, we likely have the same trait ourselves – a revelation for me. I must think more about this. May God especially bless you today.


    Thank you, Rose. You have used two statements that I have never heard before, and so have learned something new today. “If you spot it, you got it” and “Expectations are premature resentments” are two new lessons for me to follow. Many thanks, and may you continue to teach all of us!
    (ON)


    A very big and heartfelt amen to your prayer. The same sort of process has happened to me also – and what a shock it was to realize how self-centred I was. What a humbling experience. It had me ‘down’ on myself pretty badly for quite awhile, until I began to understand that ‘calling on the name of the Lord’ was a very real, personal and powerful command in the Bible. It had always seemed that calling on Him was meant for other things … not for personal change, which is actually repentance. How amazed and grateful I was for His loving kindness to me, a sinner, with blind eyes and deaf ears. A whole new world opened up to me then. Praise God for His faithfullness and patience!


    Thank you, Rose for challenging us so well in this devotional.


    Thank you, Rose, for your heartfelt and insightful sharing. May you be led to continue this ministry.


    Rose, Thank you for your beautiful Devotional. It spoke to my heart in a very special way. God bless you and thank you for writing

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